A date is a social engagement between two people, typically with the intention of getting to know each other better in a romantic context. The first date is especially important as it sets the tone for potential future interactions. It’s about creating a connection, sharing experiences, and understanding each other’s interests and values.

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In Nigeria, there’s a pressing issue with how some men misunderstand the meaning of a date. Often, a man might see a girl on the road, ask her out, exchange numbers, and then quickly invite her to his place. This approach is problematic because it often builds on fantasies, such as expecting sexual intercourse on the first date, which is unhealthy. Statistics might show that only about 25 out of 100 times does this approach work out positively. Many Nigerian men feel that having money allows them to get what they want, which is a misconception about what love truly is. Love isn’t just about sex or providing money; it’s about genuine care and connection. A person can be loved whether they’re rich or poor.

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To address these issues, Nigerian men and women should strive to do better by understanding that dates should be about genuinely getting to know each other. The first date should be in an open, safe place where both parties can talk and officially ask each other out. This helps build a real connection. Let’s work towards normalizing healthy dating practices. This means the first date should be in a public place like a cafe or fast food. Only after there’s mutual acceptance and some trust can more intimate settings, like inviting her to your home or going to the beach or movies, be considered for subsequent dates. By stopping the fantasy-driven approach to dating and focusing on genuine connections, we can lead to healthier relationships and a better understanding of what love and dates are really about.

By adopting this mindset, Nigeria can move towards a healthier dating culture where respect and genuine connection are at the forefront.